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# Are You Caught in the Success Trap?

July 20, 2020 4 min read 930 words 

I was at a Tony Robbins event, maybe five or six years ago. ” A lot of us fall into the success trap, as I call it. We achieve success, at least by society's definition, but we are unfulfilled and we feel trapped. I think a lot of us are there.

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The takeaways

1.  01 
    
    This post is a transcript of the video at the end of this post.
    
    What to do next Choose one small action tied to post you can do in the next 24 hours that your future self would thank you for.
    
2.  02 
    
    Tony said, “Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.” A lot of us fall into the success trap, as I call it.
    
    What to do next Choose one small action tied to tony you can do in the next 24 hours that your future self would thank you for.
    
3.  03 
    
    The longer in this success trap, as I mentioned, the harder it is to get out.
    
    What to do next Pick one conversation you have been putting off where longer is the real subject, and have it before the week ends.
    
4.  04 
    
    Some people have a midlife crisis where they just have had enough of the trap and they no longer want to be a lawyer, for instance.
    
    What to do next Choose one small action tied to people you can do in the next 24 hours that your future self would thank you for.
    

This post is a transcript of the video at the end of this post.

I was at a Tony Robbins event, maybe five or six years ago. Tony said, “Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.” A lot of us fall into the success trap, as I call it. We achieve success, at least by society's definition, but we are unfulfilled and we feel trapped. I think a lot of us are there. We have a job we don’t particularly like, but we’ve been doing it for 10 or maybe 15 years. So I feel vested or invested in this career. And I’ve built up a decent pay structure over these 10 or 15 years. Then I bought a house that I am barely able to afford. Or maybe as I got a new pay raise or promotion, I bought a bigger house. I have a nice car. I have a nice family.

This video excerpt from [Up in the Air](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Up_in_the_Air_\(2009_film\))), says it well:

So you look very successful from the outside, but inside you’re empty and unfulfilled and you feel trapped. The longer in this success trap, as I mentioned, the harder it is to get out. And that’s primarily due to people’s mindset. The idea that keeps you in this trap is if I’ve been at this career for 10 or 15 years, I’ve invested this amount of time in that career. So if I switched careers to do something that I really want to do, you’re going to have to take a step backward, is how a lot of people perceive it, rather than taking a different step. It’s worth asking yourself, “Is a little bit of discomfort to switch careers or to make less money worth your sanity?”

And a lot of people, if they’re in this trap too long, they get out of it. But often not in a pretty way. Some people have a midlife crisis where they just have had enough of the trap and they no longer want to be a lawyer, for instance. They’re going to now become a skydiving instructor or whatever. Some people get addicted to drugs and alcohol or sex, or they have some addictive behavior that’s typically tied to being in that success trap. Some people will actually go as far as killing themselves.

Robin Williams is an example of this. He was very successful, but he wasn’t fulfilled. Kurt Cobain, many celebrities, they have this happen to them. They’re very successful, but they’re not fulfilled. It’s important that what you’re doing with the majority of your time every day aligns with who you are and where you want to go. And it’s never too late to get out of that trap. The sooner you can get out of the success trap and live a life of fulfillment, the better because you will be more centered and your achievements will be in alignment with who you are.

I realize it takes courage. There’s going to be some risk involved to get out of the success trap. But I feel it’s extremely important, especially for people’s mental health. One of the biggest shifts that will benefit you is to shift your mindset. Just because your friends or your family think you’re successful if you don’t feel fulfilled and you want to do something else who gives a shit, what they think about it? It’s your life. You’re the only one that can tell if you’re fulfilled. They can’t.

And I know there’s a lot of peer pressure about playing a safe and having a stable job. But if you’re miserable, what is it really costing you? You’ll be much happier, probably having a job, making less money, maybe even living in a smaller house, maybe driving a less expensive car. If you’re living something more in alignment with your purpose.

I’ve talked to many people over my career. Many people I’ve met at events, many people that I’ve known that have had this high paying job. They’ve had all these nice things they look successful. But then they did decide to take a step in a different direction. They let all these things go. They have fewer things over here. But they’re much happier because they’re living a life that’s intentional and is in alignment with what they feel is their purpose, rather than what society feels or defines as success. So I encourage you to get out of the success trap. The sooner you can get out of it, the better.

I hope you found value in this video. If you are currently in the success trap or you’ve made it out of the success trap, please tell us a little bit about your story in the comments for this video. Have a great day.

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