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The In-Between

Where leadership meets the messy human work of growth.

41 posts

Jun 26, 2026

Too Old Is a Decision, Not an Age: How People Quietly Stop Living

Most people don't run out of time, they run out of permission. Why too old is a story you tell yourself, and how identity calcification turns living into existing.
Jun 24, 2026

I Am Statements: How Identity Language Rewires Behavior

The words after I am decide who you become. Why I am an athlete beats I'm trying to get back in shape, and how identity-based language makes change stick.
Jun 22, 2026

Bells Beach, Point Break, And Choosing True Over Safe

Made it to Bells Beach, Victoria — where Point Break filmed Bodhi's final wave. A bucket-list stop, and a reminder of the line from the movie that quietly shaped how I make decisions: choose what's true over what's safe.
Jun 21, 2026

Don't Stop Believing: The Comeback Isn't Dramatic

Six blood clots in 2022. A year later, a finish line at IRONMAN 70.3 Chattanooga and a song I used to think was cheesy. What nobody tells you about coming back from something that almost killed you.
Jun 21, 2026

Tulum, Prosecco, and the Sign I Almost Missed

I'd just sold my first company and every instinct said grind the next thing. Then I sat still in Tulum long enough to hear what was actually around me — and the next move got obvious.
Jun 21, 2026

Through Immersion Comes Clarity

Sixteen-hour days on AI and the business aren't balanced or sustainable — but they're the fastest way to see the gaps you've been stepping over for years.
May 9, 2026

The Accident That Taught Me to Live in the In-Between

I spent decades chasing the next summit, the next exit, the next certification. Then a crash in an Illinois intersection taught me the micro-moment is the whole game.
Mar 14, 2026

The Smartest Person in the Room Is Usually Wrong

The smartest person in the room is usually the one losing the war. After 25 years in cybersecurity, here is why ego — not technology — is the real breach.
Aug 20, 2024

Acting With Intention: What It Means and How to Make It a Habit

Are we always acting with intention? Sometimes, we are aware of it; other times, it seems like it’s just a reaction. Intention can also be a double-edged
Aug 6, 2024

No One Wants to Feel Alone in Times of Need

There are many variations of the concept of the loneliness of humanness. They say we are born and die alone. In between those two moments, we create
Aug 2, 2024

Trying to Do the Right Thing and Getting It All Wrong

Most of us are always trying to do the right thing. Except, we often get it all wrong. I came to this realization while I was recuperating from a health
Jul 23, 2024

Shedding Your Defense Modes

Everybody has the capacity to shift into defense mode. It’s a normal reaction to go into self-preservation behaviors. Sometimes, they occur when others
Jul 18, 2024

Getting Thoughtful About Intentions

Intention is an action. It’s how we define what we expect from ourselves in a situation. It involves how we want to feel or what we want to achieve.
Jul 16, 2024

Openness to Input and Feedback Drives Self-Correction

If we never experience the feedback of others, we can only rely on our own. It’s often faulty, so self-correction is seldom. We continue to repeat the
Jun 26, 2024

Micro-Moments Center on the Present

Micro-moments often pass us by. We usually don’t realize their beauty or importance because of an obsession with the macro. The mindset of the macro
Jun 26, 2024

Shifting Your Identity to a Serving State

Identity is fluid if you’re open to evolving and changing. Everything we experience impacts our identity. Mine was once very rigid and self-serving, even
Jun 19, 2024

Informed Intentions Make You Less Vulnerable to Circumstances

Intentions are a normal part of the human experience. We may have the best intentions in mind in a situation, but they can quickly spiral out of control
Jun 12, 2024

Trauma Creates a Wall to Micro-Moments

Everyone carries around the residue of trauma. Some of us have had more than our fair share, but it’s impossible to go through the human experience
Jun 12, 2024

Chase Your Dreams by Living in the In-Between

Dreams and aspirations are part of the human spirit. Many of us set goals and intentions toward making these a reality. However, much of the time, it
Jun 10, 2024

Putting a Goal of Awareness into Action

Those who wish to be more present, empathetic, and emotionally healthy must have awareness. It’s two-fold. You need to have self-awareness and be able to
Jun 10, 2024

Unexpected Connections Can Have a Big Impact

Most of our interactions with people throughout the day are merely casual exchanges. We expect little to learn or grow from these moments. However,
Apr 29, 2024

Indecision and Regret: The Inner Monologue

Almost everyone has an inner dialogue. This conversation that goes on inside our heads replays a lot of indecision and regret. When we don’t do things
Apr 28, 2024

Focusing on the Macro at the Expense of the Moment

Macro and micro are descriptors we use to demonstrate the difference between something large or great and something small. In this instance, the macro
Apr 22, 2024

Fixation on Yourself Is a Bubble State

It’s easy to fixate on your own needs, problems, and desires. While sometimes this is necessary, much of the time, it causes more harm than good. Fixation
Apr 19, 2024

How to Be Good at Being Present

Being present can mean a lot of things. In this context, it describes connections between yourself and others. Living in this state will allow you to
Sep 5, 2021

The Confidence-Competence Loop

There is a correlation between confidence and competence; not an A-to-B correlation. These two conditions reciprocally lead to each other.
Aug 27, 2021

How Your Ego Impacts Your Life

There are ways to control your ego (not your amigo). If you manage your ego you will live a much happier, healthier life.
Aug 23, 2021

How Emotional States Can Slow Down and Speed Up Time

When we learn how emotions affect how we perceive time, we can easily control how we feel and perceive time.
Aug 18, 2021

Finding Your Purpose In Life: Understanding The 7 Levels Deep Exercise

The concept of purpose is a very common theme in modern society. One of the many ways to find purpose is the 7 Levels Deep Exercise.
Aug 11, 2021

The Power of Questions

There are many ways to approach a problem. We often get caught up thinking about answers when we should be looking for the right question.
Aug 10, 2021

What is Congruence?

Is it possible for us to be in touch with what we really feel? In this post, I explain the importance of congruence how we can use it to be fulfilled.
Jun 20, 2021

Empathy vs. Sympathy

Empathy is to feel and connect with people, while sympathy drives disconnection. Empathizing is being together with the person in the dark so they are not alone while sympathizing is saying “Too bad!” from afar.
Mar 6, 2021

Fixed vs. Growth Mindset

Our mindset is crucial because it affects our ability to learn new skills and cope with everyday challenges. A growth mindset is preferable.
Jul 20, 2020

Are You Caught in the Success Trap?

A lot of us fall into the success trap. We've achieved success, according to how society defines success, but we're unfulfilled and we feel trapped.
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Jul 15, 2020

The Hero's 2 Journeys - Achievement & Transformation

The hero's 2 journeys are achievement, which is external, and transformation, which is internal. For any good story, we need these two elements.
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Jul 14, 2020

How The Confidence Competence Loop Can Benefit You

Confidence is a belief we can do something. Competence is the ability we can do something. The confidence/competence loop means if we believe we can do something, we'll take action.
Jul 13, 2020

FOMO vs JOMO

FOMO is the fear of missing out. JOMO is the joy of missing out. You will be less anxious, more fulfilled, and get more done if you practice JOMO.
Jul 13, 2020

How to Get More Time in Your Day Without Waking Up Earlier

In this post we'll cover three tips to make you more productive and give you back more time in your day without having to cut into your sleep.
Jul 12, 2020

The Value of Monotasking - What Jesse Itzler and Rainbow Taught Me

Multitasking is a thing of the past. Monotasking can help you reclaim your agenda by making you productive, instead of busy.
Jul 10, 2020

Your Ego is Not Your Amigo

Your ego is not your amigo. Your ego will cost you many things in life, including success and fulfillment. Get the ego off your back.
Jul 10, 2020

Life is Meaningless

Life is really meaningless. I know this sounds controversial, and some of you may be questioning what I'm saying. Some of you may have already turned this